“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a harder battle.” ― Plato
“When I was young, I admired clever people. Now that I am old, I admire kind people.” – AJ
What do you think of that?
If you can choose one character in a partner, what would you choose?
Having sat in several of these circles, ‘funny,’ ‘smart,’ and ‘pretty’ may very well be the top three. There is the occasionally ‘driven,’ ‘be musical,’ or ‘cares for kids.’
But how about Kindness?
Over the years, kindness has grown to be a more and more attractive characteristic to me.
I don’t mean being nice. Being nice seems to be a temporary default. Something between strangers. Almost like we ran out of descriptions and threw a word in there.
(E.g. We are ruled by a kind king v.s. We are ruled by a nice king — What is ‘nice?’)
But kindness is borne out of time and trials. It is a choice demonstrated by action:
It is having power and not abusing it (elements of mercy).
It is having strength but allowing another to win (elements of humility).
It is having knowledge but holding your tongue until appropriate (self-control).
It is seeing those who are not immediately loveable or who are in need, and extending a hand (insight, action).
It is serving, even when it is not convenient (sacrifice).
It is forgiveness, time and again (forgiveness, mercy).
It is acting in love when you may not receive the same in return (love).
Do you now see why kindness is so attractive?
But before we seek for this in another, it is not better to develop this fruit of the spirit in our own life?
Kindness is also what we are called to possess:
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.” Colossians 3:12
“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you but to do justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God?” Micah 6:8
If there are no rewards. If no one on earth sees your actions (no photos, no ‘likes’).
Just you, and a choice.
Will you act in kindness?
(Examine your hearts. When do we act and speak out of genuineness?
Can we be consistent no matter who the audience?
Don’t mistaken ‘likes’ for love.
There is no value there.
It is already forgotten.
But long for Heaven.
Don on kindness.)